Sex and Sexuality: What women wish they’d been taught

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How do you talk about sex when no one ever taught you how?

*Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners aged 18 and older.*

In this episode, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is joined by Johannesburg-based gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo “Mpume” Zenda (AKA Dr Gynae). Together, they unpack how to approach first-time experiences, body confidence, and open conversations in relationships. They also explore the importance of teaching children about sexuality using age-appropriate, honest language.

Dr Zenda is the founder of We See You and a respected voice in women’s health and public education.

This episode is about breaking the silence, offering clarity, and helping women feel more confident in their own skin.

In this episode:
00:00 Introduction to the Taboo of Sex
01:26 Meet the Guest: Dr. Mpume
03:29 The Importance of Early Sex Education
09:08 Personal Experiences and Cultural Norms
11:03 Consequences of Lack of Sex Education
14:36 Diagnosing Sexual Dysfunctions
16:13 Reprogramming Your Mindset
16:31 The Brain: The Biggest Sex Organ
17:06 Understanding and Loving Your Body
19:20 Society's Influence on Body Image
20:56 Rapid Fire Questions
22:20 Sex Education and Parental Guidance
25:02 Communicating with Your Partner
28:02 The Importance of Self-Discovery
33:20 Final Thoughts and Farewell

More about Dr Nompumelelo Zenda
Dr Nompumelelo Zenda is a Johannesburg-based OB-Gynae and medical sexologist, widely recognised for her work in advancing sexual and reproductive health in South Africa. She is the founder of We See You, a consultancy focused on innovative, inclusive approaches to wellness. As a Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine, Dr Zenda brings both medical expertise and cultural sensitivity to her work. Through her media presence, published work, and public health advocacy, she helps young South Africans make informed, confident decisions about their bodies, health, and relationships.
29 Jul English South Africa Society & Culture · Personal Journals

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