Modern Dating Decoded: Dudu Nhlabathi-Madonsela’s No-Nonsense Guide to Mjolo Mastery

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This week on Pagecast, Ndizwanga Nemanashi is in conversation with Dudu Nhlabathi-Madonsela about her book, The Dating Playbook. You can look forward to hearing Dudu answer all your burning questions about dating, love and desire.

MORE ABOUT THE BOOK:
Dating is an extreme sport and no one survives it unscathed. But to find The One, you must get back in the game and keep at it. And like other extreme sports, the odds get better if you find the right coach.

The Dating Playbook is a sobering, matter-of-fact guide to navigating the dating scene, or mjolo as it is colloquially called. Known as the Peaceful One on TikTok, popular dating coach Dudu Nhlabathi-Madonsela is no stranger to teaching people how to win at mjolo and at love.

Dudu’s teachings include advice on online dating etiquette, practical flirting and seduction techniques, as well as tips for measuring your progress. She also explains how location, politics, socioeconomic issues and upbringing inform who and how we date.

With an emphasis on understanding yourself first and being honest about what you want at various stages of your life, Dudu helps readers face the harsh realities of modern-day dating and shows them how to find their footing in the dating scene. In an era where you can be exposed to anything from a hobosexual to a high-value narcissist, she can safely say your mother’s advice just won’t do.

Whether you are dating or in a relationship, Dudu’s considered advice will show you the way.

MORE ABOUT DUDU AND NDIZWANGA:
Dudu Nhlabathi-Madonsela also known as ‘The Peaceful One’ on social media, is a witty and straight-talking dating coach who tackles social issues, particularly relating to relationships and black family dynamics. She provides regular commentary on local radio and TV stations on relationship matters.

Dudu holds multiple degrees and pivoted from being a banker to a healthcare strategist with an MBA in healthcare innovation. She aims to build one black family at a time by fostering deep conversations about how our history as a country, social issues, and social conditions impact our interpersonal relationships.

Ndizwanga Nemanashi is the marketing manager at Jonathan Ball Publishers, where she spends her days creating campaigns that connect readers to books they will enjoy. She is a professional bookworm with a deep love for people, good food, great music, and the perfect cup of tea.

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27 Feb 2025 English South Africa Books · Society & Culture

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