Leading by Example: The 20% Rule in Parenting and Education

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Lauren Edmunds explores the powerful principle of leading by example, drawn from her corporate facilitation days, and applies it to parenting and education. She explains how children model their behavior based on our energy, regulation, and organization. If we want them to be more regulated, focused, and organized, we need to be slightly ahead of them—about 20% more. Lauren discusses how this concept helps set realistic expectations and encourages personal growth while holding us accountable. It’s not about perfection but about consistently modeling behaviors and qualities we want children to emulate.
14 Apr 2025 English South Africa Education · Self-Improvement

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